Overcoming challenges

June 2, 2017

How To Rebound After a Set-Back.

We’ve all been there, we’re plugging along in life or business and BAM, something happens to knock us off our feet. Maybe you lose your funding, you’re hit with a health scare or maybe you’re even duped by someone you trusted or with whom you invested. When you find yourself in that situation, it feels like your world is spinning out of control. How could this happen? How did we let it get this far? But more importantly, how can you get back on track as quickly as possible? First of all, let’s have a dose of honesty here. Not always, but often these things don’t come out of the blue. There are usually red flags along the way, but instead of taking heed, we dismiss them and march forward. Or we try to gloss them over instead of acknowledging them as the major warning signs they are. The problem is, we have our sights so fixed on what we think we want, we can’t see what’s right in front of us or perhaps more accurately, we’re unwilling to see it. This is where I think most people get off track. It feels too dangerous to slow down or evaluate […]
July 16, 2016

Are You Happy?

Have you ever heard the phrase, “Do what you love and the money will follow?” I used to think that was a sweet, albeit unrealistic saying. I mean, I was an opera singer for goodness sake. I poured my whole heart and soul into it and never made any real money. Admittedly, I never made it to the Met and perhaps if I had had more artistic success, I would be singing a different tune right now. (Sorry, couldn’t resist that one….) However, what I’ve come to realize is, doing what you love truly IS the path to joy and abundance. The trick is, most of us are not completely dialed in to what we want and perhaps more importantly WHY we want it. Even though I passionately love, love, love singing (I mean I really love it), when I was younger, my singing meant something very different to me. It meant a way out. There’s’ no way at the age for 20 I could have told you from what exactly I was trying to escape. I just knew I thought singing was going to be my ticket to happiness. Here’s what I thought singing would do for me…. -give […]
December 1, 2015

Are You Doing Whatever It Takes?

Do you have a big dream? What is it? Exactly. Can you articulate it right now in great detail? How does it make you feel when you see your vision in black and white? Pretty awesome I bet, excited and raring to go. Now let me ask you how do you feel when you think about all the work it’s going to take to bring your vision to fruition? Do you suddenly feel scared or overwhelmed wondering how the heck you are going to get from where you are now to where you want to be? The next time someone asks you what you do, say “Whatever it takes.”- Lewis Howes. I’m going to let you in on a little secret, if you want to achieve anything great, you have to learn to love the pain. Now before you shoot darts at me, let me explain. Entrepreneurship is a battle zone. There are challenges at every corner AND it is the most exhilarating ride of your life. If you only love the highs, you are going to come down crashing, hard, and more than likely quit before you get to paradise. You have to learn to embrace the lows for what they […]
August 12, 2015

How To Overcome Detours In Your Business

Road Closed…Under Construction…Detour… Every single time I get in the car these days, I hit a road block, literally. In my town alone there must be 4 different road work projects going on. I know it’s summer and in New England that’s the time you work on roads. I get it, but I hate it. More than once this week I was late. I had to call in a mommy favor to have someone make sure my daughter wasn’t stranded at camp because I hit a detour and was stuck in gridlock. Rrrrrr… It’s such an awful feeling to be trapped. You really feel helpless. A car to the front, one behind and it’s 90 degrees outside. Something’s going to blow! Thank goodness for street savvy and GPS. For the most part, you don’t have to stay stuck, you can usually find a way around. It might take longer, but at least you are in motion again and more importantly, you regain a sense of control. In building your business there are bound to be times when things get in the way of your progress. It can be a small thing, like accidentally deleting a post you’ve been working on or […]
July 13, 2015

Magic Mike Path To Success

It’s hot out there and along with the high temps come the steamy summer box-office hits. This year Magic Mike XXL takes the cake, beef-cake that is. You have to be living under a rock not to know this sexy sequel is in theaters now. The pictures have been EVERYWHERE. (Hey, I’m not complaining!) Now whether or not a male-stripper romp is your cup of tea, one thing you have to admit is those fellas are r-i-p-p-e-d. No one, not even Magic Mike himself gets washboard abs without extreme dedication and sacrifice. We often overlook the hard work actors put into these roles when the final product is so campy. We only see them at press junkets and premiere parties and we think they have it sooo good. The truth is, they do have it good. They’re living large, making a LOT of money, staying at the best hotels and rubbing shoulders with other smart, beautiful and creative people. However, success didn’t just fall into their laps, they made their own magic. I read an interview in People Magazine recently with Channing Tatum and he talked about some of the challenges he had to overcome on his journey to Hollywood […]
December 22, 2014

You’ve got to believe…

Ah the holidays… As much as I moan and groan about the frantic pace of this season, there always comes a wonderful moment that makes it all worth while. It usually happens when the kids are home playing games, Christmas music is playing and I’m making cookies. I get a warm, fuzzy feeling. It’s the feeling we all long for around this time of year, something magical. Who knows, maybe it’s an illusion. Maybe I am kidding myself into thinking life is grand when really I have just fallen into a candy-coated haze that is blinding me to harsh reality, but I don’t think so. I know I worked hard to achieve this moment. The tinsel didn’t hang itself. I did it and now we get to enjoy it. Sometimes it can feel frantic in our businesses too. We worry we’ll never see the light at the end of the tunnel and wonder if what we’re striving for is an unattainable fantasy. Is all the hard work even worth it? It is worth it. The sugar-plum ending is possible, but you’ve got to believe, Virginia. You’ve got to BELIEVE! Most of us stop short of our dreams because we lose faith. Things get difficult, we hit a rough patch and start to doubt ourselves. We don’t see results right away and […]
September 7, 2014

My New Least Favorite Word

I have heard something a lot recently that has started to really bother me. It’s not a phrase or even a sentence. It’s one little tiny word. But this one little, tiny word has a huge impact. The word is “just.” “Just” has become my new least favorite word. I don’t mean in the “It is just and right to have laws” kind of way. I mean in the “Oh, I’ll just do…” It seems to be in the air a lot lately. Here are some of the ways I’ve heard it: “My sister-in-law’s brother is a photographer, I’ll just wait until the next time he’s in town and have him take some shots for me. “I know I need help with this, but I’m just going to see if I can do it myself first.” “Why don’t we just find someone who will volunteer to do the work.” “Why don’t you just hire her and see how it goes.” Ugh, ugh and double ugh! When we say “just” we are essentially saying we know there is something better available, but we are choosing not to try to attain it. We are letting ourselves off the hook and settling.   Why, […]
January 28, 2014

Are we there yet?

This is the last week of January. Hard to believe, but the year is really off and running now. From this point forward it’s not really the beginning of the year anymore. We’re in it. So what does that mean for our goals? I don’t know about you, but I love setting goals. For me they are really motivating and fun to plan. It makes me feel alive to imagine all the creative projects I will do for my life and business.  With all this good feeling it’s hard to imagine not accomplishing any of those lovely intentions, but unfortunately, that’s what often happens. Life gets in the way. Something will come up to throw us off course. It’s natural. Life is not linear. There are bumps and curves in the road. Sometimes there are even giant potholes! However, life is not the problem. It is not usually outside forces that ultimately keep us from reaching our goals. It’s how we